Best Man Speeches - Some Background And A Few Ideas

By Jared Wilmers

Best man speeches - a cherished practice in English speaking countries for generations now. The toast may be the most difficult part of the best man's various responsabilities. There's an entire list of responsibilities that the best man is in charge of; among them is also taking care of the wedding bands and presenting them at the correct moment.

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Besides the best man wedding speeches, the best man's job is to be there for the groom throughout the marriage preparations, to take charge of picking up the formal wear for the ceremony and to assist the groom while getting dressed and then also to return it once the wedding is over; being the legal witness to the wedding ceremony is also part of what he does. He's also in command of organizing a last evening out with the boys to say good-bye to bachelorhood: the bachelor's party.

Thus, nowadays, being a best man is an honor and involves a few things you take care of for the groom and most significantly best man wedding speaches. Formerly, back in the 16th century the duty of the best man was to help the groom in kidnapping his future bride and to guard groom and bride until the marriage vows were spoken; either from other suitors or even the family of the bride, just in case they weren't agreeing to the the marriage and wanted the bride returned.

So the traditional position of the best man at the right hand of the groom was rather a defensive position with hand on sword throughout the ceremony, just in case, and not so so much decorative, as nowadays.

It seems that the position of the best man is a lot tamer in modern times (one ought to hope) and typically doesn’t involve risking your live and well-being in order to get your best friend hitched. But best man wedding speeches still are an essential part. If your best friend has honored you with being his best man, make sure your toast will be special. Even though making a speech or public speaking in general isn't really up your alley, you will want to make it special. Take a moment to pick the right words, have them come from your heart and shine a bright light on the couple.

Some memories would give you great material to portray the groom's character or also the bride's. Hearing in your speeches for the best man how much you care for them straight from your heart will definitely touch deeper than big and elegant words. If being hilarious is your thing, be funny (and tasteful), if it isn’t your strong suite, go with sincere and warm, and you won’t fail. Now go and impress them.

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Best Man Wedding Speeches - Are Free Wedding Speeches Your Solution?

by Jared Wilmers

Best Man Wedding Speeches: You're sitting in your sofa watching a game on a Saturday night, minding your own business and then the phone rings and you best friend tells you he's tying the knot and asks you to be his best man. You don't like the idea at first glance, but can't beg off, thus you end up agreeing on a toast at the reception. Once you hang up the phone, you go straight to the Internet and look for free wedding speeches.

Get the picture? Statistics have shown that a lot of folks are fearful of public speaking then they are of more common fears, and it is indeed a very scary act, speaking in public, anything you say can't be taken back, and if you say anything wrong, you'll never live it down.

But does looking for free best man wedding speaches on the web actually help? Normally you'll find some shoddy tips on how to create the right, speech or how to go about it. Or maybe you'll be lucky enough to find one that's already made, and you'll just have to print it. But these speeches tend to be somewhat, impersonal and very general, and if you're the best man, you'll in all probability simply end up boring the audience.

When creating wedding speeches for the best man, the easier the better, you won't have to rely on free wedding speeches off the Internet if you've got memories of the couple. What you're asked to try to do in a wedding toast is to tell the crowd something concerning your friends, who are getting hitched, how they were meant for each other and how you wish them happiness for the remainder of their lives. You don't want a factory made, never ending speech. All you need is recollections, and your genuine care for your loved ones.

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If you're still having the jiggly stomach about giving your speech, you can follow these free wedding speech tips for a best man wedding speech, they'll not be ready made, but they'll surely help.

- Don't forget to introduce yourself
A easy "Mary Anne and I have been friends since high school and I've never seen her go nuts over anybody else but Steven" creates a foundation for what you're saying, especially if you're talking about events in the newlyweds' lives. If it might be a trial, you'd be the witness, and you'd need credibility. Simply imagine: would folks really receive your speech, if they don't grasp who you are?

- Forget the preaching, go on with the memories
Most individuals provide never ending best man wedding speeches since they have an inclination to provide "unasked recommendations". Leave that to the marriage counselor or the pastor. Simply give them memories. Most couples welcome the nostalgia of some well chosen anecdotes. Find a hilarious or a exciting memory you've got of the couple and share it with the audience, plus some well wishes and you've got yourself a speech.

- Select short and effective, instead of long and endless
Many of us know that a prolonged speech is very boring; you don't wish to dull the night with your talks of your childhood and your games with your friend. A biography is for a book; one or two recollections are for wedding speeches for the best man.

- Write a Poem
You may say that poems are for sissies; then again that depends on every person's standpoint. However a wedding IS a very exciting moment and it's sure that everyone is ready for some emotion and a few tear drops, and what better to bring those pools to run over than a few well spoken lines of best man wedding speeches in the shape of a poem?

So, whichever way you go, make it personal, from your heart to theirs and you’ll never go wrong.

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Best Man Wedding Speeches - I’m Up And Now What?

By: Jared Wilmers

You’re the best man and now it’s your task to come up with the best of best man wedding speeches. Now what? This might be the first time you've ever had to do something like this before and (of course only on the inside) your knees go rubbery just thinking of having to face a whole crowd of people. How on earth are you going to come up with a decent discourse and make it sound smart, witty and even funny? Maybe you have given one of those best man wedding speaches before and it really went down the tubes. You stood up in front of your audience and froze. None of the carefully crafted words you had in mind resurfaced when you needed them most. You came up with nothing, or you got frazzled and picked the wrong anecdote and now you're still not quite welcome back at that groom's mother's house.

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I’ve been there, done that (and not in a splendid way the first time around, believe me). Where do you come up with the self-assurance to make a speech in front of a large audience? Well first of all, make sure you got your facts straight and written down, do a little bit of homework. You may have a tremendous memory and among friends come up with the funniest things to say, but when you stand in front of a crowd (which is hardly anybody's comfort zone) nothing will just come out of your sleeve to save the day, not in my experience at least. Have a conversation with some people close to you about your common past and you can be pretty sure some heartwarming and funny memories from the long forgotten past will resurface.

Now before I'll jump into the "how" section, just keep in mind: A good speech is concise and to the point. At a wedding usually several speeches will be given and nobody wants to listen to someone rambling on and on. Five to ten minutes would be great. I have found that structuring your speech helps a lot to get from A to E without going through L, M, N, O, P. What do I mean? Well, write down a few points that need mentioning:

- An introduction: who you are and why you are doing the speech, short and to the point.
- A Beginning: What a wonderful couple the bride and groom make and what makes them so. Take your time there.
- A Middle Part: Where you fill things out with some anecdotes and memories to describe the groom in vivid color (funny is always good).
- Winding down: With a projection of the couple’s wonderful future. Short and sweet.
- A Closing: Use a witty toast and make the guests laugh.

This gives you a map to follow. Without a structure you may splash around aimlessly in the shadowy waters of memories; some excellent to be shared, some best forgotten. Pick out the the memories you thing best to use and make the groom come out as the knight in shining armour. You just can’t go wrong there. It's not a bad idea to practice with somebody. You could start out reading it out loud a few times and re-write any stumbling blocks in your speech patterns, then ask a friend to listen to you a couple of times. You will get more fluent this way. Take your notes with you, just in case you freeze, it'll help your confidence.

This is your best friend's wedding and you're going to make this day even more special by dazzling them with one of the best wedding speeches for the best man mankind has heard so far.

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Wedding - Best Man Speeches - A Simple Way To Write An Impressive Speech

By: Jared Wilmers

Let's face it: wedding - best man speeches and such isn't exactly up our alley. We’re really good at being best friends and being there for each other, even helping out at any time. But making a speech in front of lots of people, many of whom you don’t know and many you may know too well for your own comfort; now that’s a whole different kind of animal.

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You wonder how to write best man wedding speaches that are interesting, extraordinary and even witty and don't offend anybody in the process? A good start would be to sit down with pen and paper and get all the memories and anecdotes you can think of written down. If you guys go way back you're sure to dig up a few funny incidences worthy to be mentioned, that would shine a personal light on the groom (or also the bride if you've known her for a while). Look for some anecdotes and memories that paint a clear picture of your friend and emphazise his personality, that show who he is as a person and who the bride is marrying. Going over an old photo album may be helpful to trigger memories. You can probably get one from the groom's mom. She'll be happy to provide you with some memorabilia too to bring back memories from way back.

When you have your list of memories and also the things you like best about him, make another list of the people that will be attending the nuptials that you know personally. When looking at both lists, drop the memories that would leave a person present at the wedding in a bad light. If the story has the potential to be hurtful or offensive to anyone present at the celebration, scratch it. The funniest story since wedding speeches were invented is not worth the fall-out sure to follow.

Once you have whittled your list down to usable facts go over it again and pick the ones that best describe your friend or bring out some hidden quality not everybody knows him for (as long as you don’t get him into trouble) for your best shot at a best man wedding speech.

Now you only need to get your ducks in a row. I always recommend you start focusing on the couple and point out a few points that make them a great couple and brought them to this happy day. Then bring in some anecdotes that show the bride who she’s getting hitched to. You can go on to the historic part and describe the groom in all his splendor (or attempts at it). Also weave in some nice characteristics of the bride if you know her well enough. Let the bride know the groom is the best thing that could have ever happened to her, project their beautiful future and finish your speech with a witty or funny toast.

Of the many best man wedding speeches people hear, yours will be remembered with joy and it will seal your lifelong friendship with the new couple. And it even might get you some brownie points with Aunt Lucille, whom you didn’t take revenge on by pointing out that certain event some twenty-five years ago when she became that “not so favorite aunt”, even though it would have been sooo funny.


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Best Man Wedding Speeches – How To Dazzle Your Audience

By: Jared Wilmers

You’ve got four months to go to come up with the best of best man wedding speeches, since your best friend asked you to be his best man. And you’re not sure speech writing is the best of your abilities. You are still coming to terms with him getting married and you guys not being able to hang out as you used to, but you also want the guy to be happy and if giving the best speech does the job, you’re up to it.

The speech doesn’t make a re-appearance in your memory until a couple of months later, when someone said something wedding related in a conversation. Ok. Got to remember this one and you scribble a note on a napkin, just to make sure. And your speech is going to be one of those funny best man wedding speeches that everyone will remember. Of course you lose the napkin.

One, two, three more weeks pass into history and the feeling of pressure to get something concrete on paper is settling in. You make a plan: this Saturday you’ll take the morning and get the speech done. Good idea. On Friday you get a call from your best friend. He really needs some help with those boxes that still need to go the new apartment. Sure, you’ll be there at eight the next morning and help out. There was something you had planned. What was it again? Oh, never mind, couldn’t have been that important if you can’t even remember it.

Before you know it another week is gone, when picking up the potted palm trees for the reception it hits you right between the eyes: you still don’t have a single syllable for the best of all best man wedding speeches. Oh, boy. And the wedding is in only a few days.

Should you ask your other friends for help? Nope, you’d never hear the end of that one. Then what? Dad? Oh what the heck, you’ll give it a try. Of course he’s happy to oblige and gives you enough pointers for three speeches. You take your notes and a yellow pad and prepare yourself for battle. This can’t be that hard, can it now? Hours later you run out of paper, you’re dazed and you still squat. You lost the battle and are ready to surrender and wave the white flag.

Well no, not there yet. Somewhere in the back of your memory there is a tug: you saw that wedding magazine sitting around here somewhere . . . there it is, with wedding speech examples too . . . for the bride, of course. -- If this resembles what you’ve been through these last months: you need to make a plan.

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To write a good wedding speech you will need a structure that you can then fill out. Think about all the things you like best about your friend and write them down; also include the bride in there. On another list note down some great anecdotes from your guys’ shared past. You can never go wrong with funny, but stay away from embarrassing memories, since you want to keep the couples feelings in mind (and that of the guests too for that matter).

Start out shining a bright light on the couple and highlight what makes them the great couple they are. Then quickly travel through your past with your friend and share some of the funny stuff you guys have been through together, include the bride wherever possible (keep tasteful and funny in mind). Focus on the time when bride and groom just got to know each other, from your point of view (always the official version). Along the way weave in some nice details about your friend and his bride. Show your hopes for their happy future as a couple and how you are going to play an important part in that happiness and . . . close with a witty toast. In the end, be funny and concise and you can’t go wrong.

So here’s one structure you could use. Fill it out with your memories and experiences and you will have a wedding speech ready to go and concise to boot. One word of advice though: Never embarrass anyone present when doing best man wedding speeches. It would quickly dampen the spirit of the celebration and could do permanent damage to your friendship. If you want your friendship with both of them to last a life-time, stay on the good side of the bride.